If you're going to love her, love her well.
Learn things about her. Learn everything about her. Learn how she takes her coffee, and her favorite treat. Learn her favorite books, and movies, and learn why. Learn her favorite weekend activities, and learn how to enjoy them too. Learn what she needs when she's sad. If it's touch, embrace her. If it's space, let her be. Learn how to know, before she has to say a word. Because, I promise you, there are ways to know. Know that her heart is beautiful, but also fragile. Know that your words will linger, both for the better and, at times, for the worst. Know that she pays attention, even when she is stubbornly pretending she isn't. Know that she is always trying, always striving to love you better, though it can be difficult to see past herself some times. Do not forget this, when things get hard. Do not forget that she is human, too - a beautiful, strong, loving human, who too has insecurities. Learn the insecurities, and I plead of you, never use them to your advantage. Know what it is that wakes her up in the middle of the night - a stomach full of knots and eyes full of tears. Know how to soothe her, but most importantly, know how to never be the reason why. Her heart makes her special. You know that. Don't forget that. She knows you're special too. Above all, put grace first. Grace for her, grace for eachother, grace for yourself. Your grace honors your Creator - the source of perfect love. Long for this, strive for this, live for this. You cannot half love somebody. You are either in or you are out. To invest partially is a disservice to yourself and your partner. Half-love is a disgrace - a recipe for pain and disaster. So if you're going to love her, love her well. Though she can't promise to always love you perfectly either, know that she will always try.
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AuthorHello! I'm Becca -humanitarian, caffeine addict, lover of books, people, and all things Jesus. You can find me in my pajamas, day dreaming about rainy days and saving the world. Archives
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